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Zoux Auv Mienh Zuqc Hiuv Taux Nyei Ziepc Diuh Jauv
Cien Hnamv Nyei Doqc Mangc pongh youv doic mbuo,
Yie yiem Zong Guoc Janx-Baeqc Miuh nyei web site buatc naaiv zeiv wuonh zaang. Mv bei maaih dauh baav mienh muoz oix doqc mangc a'nziaauc nyei fai? Mbuo yiem Meiv Guoqv, gorngv taux Fai-Bung mienh nyei leiz/jauv-jung daaix mienh muoz mbuo zungv hiuv duqv camv haic aqv. Mbuo seix aengx mangc deix Dong-Bung mienh nyei leiz mangc gaax pioux doic yiem haaix norm dorngx !
Mv maaih eix fiev njaaux haaix dauh oc; Fiev daaih maaih ziqc zuiz dorngx jaa-ndaangc tov zuiz camv oc.
女孩需要偷偷知道的十件事
[dorng jaa]MH SIEQV DORN ZUQC BINGX JIENV HIUV DUQV NYEI ZIEPC DIUH [zoux mienh seix] JAUV
1. 愛人就是愛人，只要去愛，不要拿來比較，不要老說人家老公如何如何好，別數落他沒出息，你是他最親密的人，你還這麼說他，好像不太應該。對大多數男人來說，贊賞和鼓勵比辱罵更能讓他有奮斗的力量。何況，愛他還忍心去傷害他嗎？愛他一定要尊重他。再生氣也不能出口傷人，言語的傷口有時一生都在流血的。身體的傷害很容易治愈，精神的傷害後果是可怕的。
1. Mbuo hnamv nyei mienh naaic hnangv haaix nor gorngv yaac zeiz mbuo hnamv nyei mienh, kungx maaih hnamv ninh hnangv, mv dungx dorh ninh mingh beiv uov dauh beiv naaiv dauh. Mv dungx zanc-zanc gorngv taux dieh dauh mienh nyei nqox hnangv naaiv nor longx fai hnangv uov nor nernh, mv dungx daanh ganh nyei mv maaih haaix nyungc buonv-zeic. Meih zeiz ninh nyei nitv fatv jiex nyei mienh aqv, meih aengx hnangv naaic nor gorngv bun ninh nor, hnangv jangx mv nangc horpc nor. Camv soux nyei mh jangc dorn, oix auv ceng caux taaih. Ceng caux taaih[to praise and to encourage] nyei waac gauh tengx duqv ninh bun maaih qaqv mingh doix dekc mienh seix nyei naanh jauv. Laaix hnamv ninh, meih daaix mv maaih hnyouv aengx hoic ninh lorqc ? Hnamv ninh oix zuqc mangc zongc[respect]ninh. Qiex jiex ndongc haaix yaac mv horpc zuqc ciouv waac jaa hoic ninh. Nyinh nyouz[waac] hoic mienh nyei ga'naaiv-mun naaic nzunc baav yietc seix yaac cuotv jienv nziaamv yiem nyei--mv haih longx. Sin zangc nyei ga'naaiv-mun hongh heic zorc duqv longx nyei. Hnyouv nyei ga'naaiv-mun aqc duqv zorc haic.
[HNAMV NINH DUNGX DORH NINH MINGH BEIV AN DIEH DAUH]
2. 不可以整天追問對方愛不愛你，他若真愛你，你不必問，他若不愛你，他已做了你的丈夫，難道他會對自己的妻子承認嗎？除非他不想要這段婚姻了。他對你的愛，用心去體會就品味出來了。愛是做出來的，不是說出來的。老掛在口頭上不落到實際的愛太蒼白無力，婚姻是現實的，生活是現實的，風花雪月的戀愛，不是真實的生活。婚姻是從柴米油鹽中感受愛的。
2. mv dungx zanc-zanc naaic jienv ninh se ninh hnamv meih nyei fai? Se gorngv ninh zien hnamv meih nor mv zuqc naaic ganh zungv hiuv aqv. Se gorngv ninh mv hnamv meih nor, meih zungv benx liuz ninh nyei auv mi'aqc, ninh mv haih doix jienv ganh nyei auv laengz zien waac lorqc! Cuotv liuz[unless]ninh mv oix longc ninh nyei auv aqv. Ninh hnamv meih camv ndongc haaix, meih ganh mingh corngh bun mengh baeqc, meih ganh cai duqv zuqc zien jaav nyei. Hnamv doic jauv naaic zeiz zoux cuotv daaih nyei sic mv zeiz longc nzuih gorngv cuotv daaih nyei sic. Zanc-zanc zorqv hnamv naaiv joux waac daaih zanx jienv ndau nzuih meix-dueiv, mv nzaqv mangc zien sic nyei hnamv naaic zeiz zaamv haic caux mv maaih hniev-soux nyei hnamv. Longc doic jauv zeiz zien sic, zoux mienh seix yaac zeiz zien sic, hnangv biangh hnangv biouv nyei hnamv naaic mv zeiz zien sic zien mienh seix. Auv-nqox doic nyei hnamv naaic zeiz yiem zaangh, hmeiv, hmei caux nzauv[hnoi-hnoi zoux nyei jauv] gapv benx cuotv daaih nyei.
[LONGC ZOUX NYEI SIC DAAIH DOIC BIUV HNAMV MV ZEIZ LONGC WAAC]
3.不要擺臉色給對方看， 一個生氣的女人是很丑陋的。他工作已有許多壓力，沒有義務回家還要看你的臉色哄你開心。對方性格上會有缺點，生活細節會與你不同，令你不滿意，但他怎麼可能是完美的，在你面前，他要放下面具，做回自己，做個普通人。寬容是做人和對待婚姻應有的態度。
3. mv dungx zoux hmien jieqv hmien hmuangx bun nqox. butv ga'qiex mh sieqv dorn nyei hmien-mueic naaic gengh zengv aqc mangc camv haic nyei. Ninh nyei gong gapc ndioux ninh kouv iem hnyouv mv gaengh gaux, ninh aengx zuqc nzuonx daaih zorc auv nyei hnyouv, naaic haih zoux bun ninh zitc hnyouv nyei. zoux hnyouv jangv deix, ndaauv deix naaic zeiz kuv limc kaux bun dorng jaa jauv uonv dingc.
[ZOUX HNYOUV JANGV TIM JIENV HMIEN NJANG DAAIH HNAMV]
4. 男人對自己的尊嚴看得比甚么都重要。不管在私下他有多麼寵愛你，多麼怕你。在人前一定要給對方面子。讓他做天不怕地不怕老婆更不怕的他口中的頂天立地的男子漢。他應該不大會喜歡朋友們開玩笑取笑他怕老婆。除非他有足夠的強大後盾和高高在上的身份。可是，我們大多是普通人呀。
4. Mh jangc dorn nyei "self-respect" naaic ninh mbuo daav maaih jaax hlo haic nyei. Mv gunv iem hmuangx zong/suangx-ndiev dorngx ninh ndongc haaix nyei hnamv meih, fai ndongc haaix nyei gamh nziex meih, iem mienh camv fai dorng mienh camv nyei ziangh hoc, meih zuqc tengx ninh zaangv deix ninh nyei naaiv norm mengh dauh. Zuqc zoux bun mienh camv hiuv gorngv ninh naaic zeiz dauh mv gamh nziex lungh hlo ndau hoz nyei mienh--gauh jienv jiex ninh zeiz mv gamh nziex auv nyei mienh. Ninh ioux jiex nyei sic naaic se zeiz ninh nyei a'nziaauc doic gorngv jatv ninh se ninh zeiz gamh nziex auv nyei mienh. Cuotv liuz meih gauh hlo gauh hlang ninh zie ndorqc, zanc-zanc iem jienv ninh nyei ga'haav nqaang benx ninh nyei houc sin mienh. Zien sic nor, mbuo naaic zeiz pou-tong mienh hnangv orx!
[DORNG ZUANGX NYEI ZIANGH HOC TENGX NINH ZAANGV DEIX HMIEN]
5. 男人大多喜歡吹牛，你別戳破他的這個小把戲，他們這麼樣可以讓自己得到一點力量，找到一點自信。好繼續人生征程下面的拼搏。虛擬的成就感能讓他心情明朗起來不好嗎？沒人喜歡自己以無所是，和妻子在一起是身體的放縱談話是心靈的放縱。只要愛人快樂，輕松一點裝傻附和他一下不是很好嗎？
5. Camv soux nyei mh jangc dorn oix haic bungx buotv-maux--zorqv faix zorng gorngv benx hlo/ganh mv maaih nyei buonv-zeic yaac gorngv ganh maaih. Tov meih mv dungx porx wuaaic ninh nyei naaiv norm "game". Ninh hnangv naaiv nor zoux yaac wueic zuqc haih zoux bun ninh duqv deix qaqv caux zeic sienx nyei hnyouv-qav [self-confident],liuz kuv-dorh naaiv deix qaqv mingh doix-dekc zoux mienh zoux seix dengv caengx ga'naanh dorngx. Ganh zorng daaih se ganh maaih nyei domh buonv-zeic[the making up of one's capability]zoux bun ganh nyei hnyouv kuv-iem, naaic mv zeiz ndongc haaix ciouv nyei sic lorqc? Mv maaih haaix dauh oix benx dauh mienh ietc nyungc yaac mv zeiz ietc nyungc yaac mv zuqc nyei mienh! Caux auv iem naaic zoux bun sin zangc fong-yongh; gorngv deix domh waac naaic zoux bun hnyouv kuv-iem. Daan-faanh noic duqv ganh nyei hnamv maaih njien-youh hnyouv hnangv, meih da'eix, zaax laaic benx mienh hngongx mienh --zorng muangx mv hiuv/zorng muangx mv haiz--mv dungx maeqv ninh yaac daaix zeiz diuc kuv jauv tengx duqv ninh nyei ?
[MV DUNGX BANGC MH JANGC DORN BUNGX BUOTV-MAUX NYEI ZIANGH HOC MAEQV NINH]
6. 男人骨子里全都喜歡美女。看到美女會目不轉睛或回頭行注目禮。你別以為他不愛你。也別認為他好色。愛看美女是男人的本能，與品格無關。何況，愛美之心人皆有之。你難道沒偷看過帥哥嗎？
6. fingx mh jangc dorn nyei hnyouv gu'nyuoz, ginx dauh oix mangc sieqv-nzueic. buatc sieqv-dorn-nzueic haih zoux bun ninh mbuo mv jangx nziepv mh zing, yaac haih domh daaux-hluotv yangh jauv. meih mv dungx bieqc dorngc hnyouv gorngv ninh mv hnamv meih, yaac mv dungx bieqc hnyouv gorngv ninh naaic zeiz ga'naaiv-saeng. Oix mangc sieqv-nzueic zeiz mh jangc dorn nyei gorn-buonv fiem-fingx, caux ninh nyei "moral character" mv guen taux doic. Seix zangc, mouz mienh zungv oix mangc nzueic nyei mienh fih hnangv nyei oc, meih ganh yaac nimc mangc jiex dorn-nzueic nyei mv zeiz?
[OIX MANGC SIEQV-NZUEIC MV BAAC HNYOUV HNAMV MEIH ZIEN NYEI]
7.不要太虛榮，不要太功利。物質的追求是無止境的，你是活給自己，不是活給別人看的。鞋子合不合腳只有自個知道。舒服最重要，其它的都是裝飾，是虛設，何況俗語說﹕千金易得，有情郎難尋。真愛無價，情義無價。
7. mv dungx iem jaav yongh huaah fuqc gueix nyei mbeix mbeix duang. Mv dungx kungx mauv fai douh duqv ga'naaiv [materialistic] hnangv. Jiouh lorz ga'naaiv hnyei jauv naaic yangh mv haih dorng ietc dangh. Mbuo wueic ganh ziangh iem naaiv lungh ndiev--mv zeiz ziangh bun dieh dauh mangc. Heh horpc zaux nyei fai, mbuo ganh hiuv duqv longx jiex. Zuqv jienv daapc jienv haic kuv-iem nyei naaic gauh jienv jiex--jiex liuz naaic zeiz zorng nzueic nyei jauv hnangv. Gouv waac gorngv," cin lungz jiem heic lorz duqv, maaih zingh nyei mh jangc mv hongh heic lorz." Zien hnamv mborqv mv duqv jaax-zinh an.
[ZORNG-ZUQV NZUEIC MV NDONGC HNYOUV NZUEIC]
8.男人為何喜歡溫柔的女人，因為他們的內心很脆弱。不像外表般堅強，他們需要妻子柔情似水，柔聲細語。親憐蜜愛。只要你有文雅如藍的外表和氣質，有吐氣如藍的聲音。有含情脈脈的眼波。他們很容易化百煉鋼為繞指柔的。溫柔，可以殺死一個男人的。對于男人，那是致命的誘惑。
8. Mh jangc dorn wueic horh oix eix-leiz suonc mau nyei mh sieqv dorn? Laaix zuqc mh jangc dorn nyei hnyouv naaic mau faauv haic, mv hnangv ninh mbuo nyei sin beih uov nor henv caux maaih qaqv. Ninh mbuo oix buatc haic ninh mbuo nyei auv zoux eix-leiz mau hnangv buic, gorngv sing-qiex gaam hnangv dorngh. Se gorngv meih maaih naaiv deix eix-luoqc nor, meih nyei nqox ngaengc ndongc gangx nyei hnyouv yaac zuqc ox mau mi'aqv. Mh sieqv dorn nyei suonc mau eix-leiz eix-luoqc daix duqv mh jangc dorn daic nyei. Naaic nyungc eix-luoqc haih yuoqc duqv mh jangc dorn guangc maengc nyei.
[FIEM-FINGX MAU SUONC NDOH DUQV MH JANGC DORN NYEI HNYOUV JIENV JIEX]
9.家庭永遠是第一，我們雖然要對工作負責，要有職業道德，要從工作中得到樂趣，但不要做工作的奴隸。我們工作是為了更快樂地和家人在一起。享受生活，享受生命很重要。
9. hmuangv doic naaic haaix zanc yaac zuqc zeiz da'ietv. Mbuo lomh nzoih zuqc zoux gong caux zuqc [responsible] mbuo nyei gong, mv baac laaix oix bangc gong duqv njien-youh. oix zuqc mv dungx benx gong nyei nqaiv-nouh. caux hmuangv doic juangc njien-youh naaic jienv haic nyei iem mbuo zoux mienh zoux seix nyei jauv duang.
[JAA-DINGH/HMUANGV DOIC HAAIX ZANC YAAC ZUQC ZEIZ DA'IETV]
10. 愛人的父母就是自己的父母。將心比心，愛屋及烏，老吾老以及人之老。只要內心深處真正感到，這就是我自己的父母。心里上對老人依戀親密。老人會感受到這份真心的。何況，人老了很像小孩子。只要像哄孩子般哄老人開心就好了。我們自己也有老的一天。
10. mbuo nyei nqox nyei domh mienh ziouc zeiz mbuo ganh nyei domh mienh. ziang sin biv sin, maaih hnyouv hnamv nqox, yaac zuqc zoux buoz ndaauv nyei mingh hnamv ninh nyei die maa. zorqv cuotv zien hnyouv daaih hnamv ninh mbuo, ninh mbuo haih mangc duqv hiuv mbuo hnamv ninh mbuo nyei hnyouv nyei. ietc seix domh mienh, i seix fu'jueiv, daan-faanh mbuo longc noic hnangv nduov fu'jueiv nor nduov bun ninh mbuo mienh gox mienh maaih aqc hneiv jauv liuz longx haic aqv. Mbuo ganh yaac maaih zanc haih gox nyei.
[MAAIH HNYOUV HNAMV MIENH NYEI DORN YAAC ZUQC MAAIH HNYOUV HNAMV NINH NYEI DOMH MIENH]
Haaix dauh maaih hnyouv aengx zorqv faan benx In-Wuonh fai Janx-Taiv nzangc oc.
Faan daaih mv nangc doix guv yienh, la'guaih doqc mangc a'nziaauc hnangv oc. Buang gitv bun ietc zuangx doqc mangc nyei mienh muoz mbuo nyei zingh youh fou-cai ietc liuz ietc doic gaam diemh, jienv ndongc hlieqv-limc kuonv, uonv ndongc hliepv-limc kaux...laengz zingh
Cute story... Wish my man was 50/50. It's 100 for him 99% of the time.. Selfish I know. Maybe I need to wait til he's an old man? =) jk
When two people get married, they have expectation of
how the relationship should work. Often the unspoken
assumption is that "my spouse will meet me halfway."
Sometimes it's called the "50/50 Plan." When the husband
and wife operate on this pattern, it's easy for it to
spread to other members of the family.
The 50/50 Plan says, "You do your part, and I'll do mine."
It sounds logical, but couples who use it may be surprised.
A young man saw an elderly couple sitting down to lunch
at McDonald's. He noticed that they had ordered one meal
and an extra drink cup. As he watched, the gentleman
carefully divided the hamburger in half, then counted out
the fries, one for him, one for her, until each had half
of them. Then he poured half of the soft drink into the
extra cup and set that in front of his wife. The old man
then began to eat, and his wife sat watching, with her
hands folded in her lap. The young man decided to ask if
they would allow him to purchase another meal for them so
that they didn't have to split theirs.
The old gentleman said,"Oh,no. We've been married for 50
years, and everything has been and will be shared 50/50."
The young man then asked the wife if she was going to eat,
and she replied, "Not yet. It's his turn with the teeth."
Well, the proble with most 50/50 arrangements is that giving
is based on merit and performance. There's a focus more on
what the other person is giving than on what we are giving.
And how do you ever know if your spouse has met you halfway?
Think about the type of love God gives you. No matter what
we do, He gives us 100 percent. As Romans 5:8 shows, He
gives us love even when we don't deserve it.
There's a better plan. It's called "The 100/100 Plan."
Give 100 percent no matter what your spouse does. It
really does work!
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that
while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Romans 5:8
Written by H. Norman Wright.
Pleasant words are as a honeycomb,
sweet to the mind and healing to the body.
Proverbs 16:24
It's early. The alarm just went off.
You both wake up, look at one another,
and say...What are the typical"first words"
you say to one another in the morning?
Is it a grunt, a command, a moan, a
complaint, a blank stare? Or are your
first words reflective of this proverb?
What do you say to one another as you go
your separate ways for the day? Is it a
list of tasks to do, a series of reminders,
"now don't forget this again" remark? Or
do your departing words echo today's Proverb?
Lets consider a phone call during the day.Is it:
"Did anything important come in the mail?"
"I need________by dinner tonight."
"Hi,I called to see how you're doing.
I love you."
And what about the greeting you give to one
another when you first meet at the end of the
work day? Is it a check-up on tasks done or
not done, a "where's the mail?" or "what's
for dinner?" Or is it a gripe session about
the unfairness of children, bosses, and
freeways? Is it,"Hi, How are you? I hope you
had a good day. I missed you"?
And what about the last words at night before
you go to sleep. Or are there any?
Pleasant words set the tone for tone for the
day and evening. What you say the first thing
in the morning, when you leave one another,
when you see each other again, and when you
go to bed has a definite life impact.
"Love always,and only, thinks lovely thoughts,
so that the minds in which the Lord of Love makes
His kingdom become kingdoms of light instead of
darkness. "enjoy a foretaste of the glory and
joy of the creative life and work of heaven itself."
Check out your thoughts and your words. Are they
pleasant? Remember, the wisdom that is sweet to
your sould includes building your marriage with
positive, caring, and gentle communication.
by H.Norman Wright
i see that you have translated the writing in chinese and mein but i am really slow in reading mien can you please translate to english so that i may understand it
yie sienx gorngv naaiv zeiv wuonh zaang zeiz mh jangc dorn fiev daaih. Ninh zeiz fiev sou mienh nyei mongc "wishes".
Zoux nqox mienh oix zuqc hnangv haaix nor zoux cingx wueih kuv nqox nyei wuonh zaang nor oix zuqc zeiz mh sieqv dorn mienh fiev--cingx maaih hniev-soux.
Mv baac, yie jangx duqv yiem "Bill Cosby Show" maaih joux waac hnangv naaiv nor gorngv: Ninh nyei sieqv gorngv mbuox ninh nyei Dae se, " longx hnyouv camv haic yie maaih kuv Dae." Bill Cosby dau ninh nyei sieqv se, " Ndaang yie oix benx kuv dae mv baac bangc kaux yie maaih kuv fu'jueiv"
Janx-Taiv yaac maaih joux waac gorngv, " nduqc jieqv buoz mbaix mv haih mbui."
Yie hnamv daaih nor, wueih mienh iem seix dorh hnyouv mingh beiv an hnyouv, haaix nyungc mbuo oix mbuo nyei auv zoux, naaic nyungc jauv mbuo ganh benx nqox mienh oix zuqc zoux benx nyungc zeiv ndaangc. Wueic zuqc ih jaax naaiv mbuo hnoi-hnoi gorngv taux naamh nyouz baengh dangv nyei leiz !
--Camv-Norm Mh Zing Tengx Jienv Doic Mangc Buatc Duqv Gauh Jangv Gauh Cing--
Meih fiev daaih naaiv ...gengh zien waac however, zoux nqox mienh niv?
I believe it goes both ways...correct me if i am wrong.
don't get me wrong..I am not offended by it at all. I really enjoy reading the forum
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